Domestic abuse is complicated, and not often understood even by those who have been through it. The Domestic Abuse Intervention Project (DAIP) created the Power and Control Wheel to help describe abuse women in domestic violence relationships are experiencing. The Equality Wheel was created to describe a healthy relationship. If you lay the Equality Wheel over the Power and Control Wheel, you will see they are corresponding opposites.
Who is the Victim?
Children are also victims-even if they are not physically abused themselves. When children witness violence between their parents, they may learn violence as a way of life and later become involved in abusive relationships.
In addition, violence in the home causes emotional suffering and many, many corresponding problems.
Who is the Abuser?
They may be under the influence of drugs or alcohol at the time of the abuse, and later claim; "I was drunk." or "I didn't know what I was doing." or "It just happened." They may in fact, believe that the abuse was justified. In any case...the assaults will continue.
In 85% of police calls for domestic violence, children had witnessed the violence.
Witnessing parental violence is a risk factor for:
Society has built a system of myths around the reality that literally thousands of women and men are being abused in their homes physically, psychologically, and sexually. This system of myths is keeping women and men trapped in terror and perpetuating the problem from generation to generation.
There are also myths that surround the batterers; the belief that the man is usually unemployed, uneducated, frustrated, and alcoholic or “lower class.” Doctors, lawyers, executives beat their wives and children with as much frequency. Alcohol is not the cause but as some batterers have stated, the thing that gives them the “courage” to do it.
The real tragedy of these myths is that they are not just misconceptions of the general public but are shared by the very people and institutions who deal with the problem; police, judges, therapists, clergy, doctors, men who beat women and sadly women who are beaten.
Our purpose then is to provide a shelter for victims that are free of these myths. It is a place where their immediate needs will be met: food and shelter. Advocacy is also provided to assure that those services and institutions designed to serve them do so in a way that deals with the realities of their situations rather than the myths.
Shelter: (605) 996-2765 • Hotline: (605) 996-4440 • Visitation Center: 605-996-8880
Mitchell Area Safehouse and
Family Visitation Center
1809 North Wisconsin, Mitchell, South Dakota 57301