Are You a Victim?
If you have answered YES to any of these questions, it is time to check your relationship. There are places you can go for help and support. Perhaps you are now out of a violent relationship, but still dealing with pain. Regardless, you can call the Mitchell Area Safehouse, we can help.
He says he loves me
"Either dinner wasn’t exactly what
he wanted, the
and it was always my fault.”
“It was very debilitating, I ended up
You can't change your partner's behavior!
You can not stop your partner's violence toward you. Your partner is in control of his or her own actions just as you are in control of yours.
You can't stay in an abusive relationship and be safe!
Without intervention, family violence becomes more frequent and severe.
You can't do the "right thing" to please the abuser!
It's not about you! The choice to abuse lies with the abuser.
You can't save the relationship by yourself!
You can go to counseling, you can do whatever it takes to try to make things better--but it takes TWO people to make a relationship work.
You can't forgive and forget!
It only gives the abuser license to strike again. If the abuser suffers no consequences, they have no reason to stop.
You can't shield your partner from the consequences of abusive behavior!
"My partner didn't really mean it...this time, officer!" If the abuser doesn't really want to change the behavior, it doesn't matter how much they beg or plead to avoid going to jail. THE ABUSER WILL DO OR SAY ANYTHING TO AVOID FACING THE CONSEQUENCES!
You shouldn't respond to violence with violence!
Violence is NOT an appropriate or helpful response to another person's actions or words.
But, remember...if you are in extreme fear for your life...you have the right to defend yourself!
Remember... If domestic violence has made you angry, this is good! Your well-directed anger at this mistreatment is an acknowledgement of your own self worth.
Shelter: (605) 996-2765 • Hotline: (605) 996-4440 • Visitation Center: 605-996-8880
Mitchell Area Safehouse and
Family Visitation Center
1809 North Wisconsin, Mitchell, South Dakota 57301