Dear Staff at Mitchell Safehouse
Lately I have had some time to reflect on these
past several months. With all that has happened it left me feeling
overwhelmed and useless. In my battle with all the negatives
I somehow lost perspective of seeing all the positives. I didn’t
see how far I have come always pushing to feel safe and happy
with myself. This past week has shown me.
I am no longer in a negative environment. I’m
surrounded by so many compassionate and supporting people, I
have my two beloved cats in an apt. (home) that is mine. I know
that I am hardworking and have a strong determination to live
and make a better person out of myself and also now have a chance
for a great future!
With your kindness and support I have learned
to believe and trust! That I am no longer lost, as I for so
long truly thought I was! I am now on the path that was chosen
for me and I am truly thankful to you for the help you gave
in getting me here!
Thank you God bless and keep you!
Former Shelter Resident
A very special thanks to the Mitchell Area Safehouse.
Words could never express the respect, gratitude and thanks
I have for you. I can’t believe it has been over a year
that I have gone to your support group for abused women. One
year ago my 2 children & I left the 14 year abusive relationship
with my husband and stayed at the Shelter. It was not easy for
me as I had no idea what to expect on how my kids, husband,
family or community would react. But the day we came I felt
such an unbelievable amount of Love, Concern & Security
with a real home atmosphere.
I knew the road ahead of me was going to be long
and uncertain. But you helped me sort thru my feelings, was
always there for me when I was scared or in doubt. Helped me
with the necessary steps needed to go on with my life. Let me
be my own person. Helped me regain some of my self-esteem. To
be more open instead of holding everything inside. To realize
the kids and I can make it on our own, if we so choose. All
the things I was told for so long was not possible, you helped
make possible. You made the kids & I feel very special,
made us feel like family. You never made us feel like just another
caseload. But real people with real feelings.
I feel as though God placed you there to be our
own personal Guardian Angels, to help guide us and make our
own decisions. I could never repay you for all that you have
done for us and continue to do so. The weekly support group
still means so much to the kids and I, as sometimes in everyday
life whether it be schoolmates, friends, family, relationships
we still tend to allow people to hurt us or take advantage of
us. But the weekly sharing with one another & supporting
each other gives us confidence to go on with our life.
Former Shelter Resident
Support Group Participant
An abuser is controlling--makes you feel like
you are not worth anything. You can’t do anything right
and puts enough fear into you that it makes it hard to leave.
A lot of time leaving is not something you can do on your own,
because you don’t feel strong enough or you are afraid
of what he might do.
That is why we need to make our police officers
and public more aware of how an abuser thinks and also acts
and what help is available, or where to go to get help.
I am so grateful to be able to come to the Safehouse.
The staff are very caring women that know that things are not
going to be all right over night but that you are beginning
a healing that is going to take some time. They are there to
help you with your needs in a safe place, so you are not in
danger as you are starting to build a new life.
The information and support you get from the staff
is outstanding. It is so great to have a place to go to be safe,
where the staff knows what your opinions are and can help you
achieve your goals.
I am not a person who is easy to get to know and understand.
need to let go…I won’t be accepted by everyone that I’d
I am emotionally complex and extremely sensitive but
disinclined to show it.
need to let go…and not hide the feeling that flood my mind.
I have been hurt and I’m cautious and mistrustful.
need to let go…and risk that I can still live being hurt and
I have strong gut reactions, and believe that I am correct
most of the time.
need to let go…and laugh at my beliefs most of the time.
I have difficulty expressing why I feel as I do and
defending my positions.
need to let go…and learn to communicate and not blame.
I have a powerful need for deep emotional involvement
from those I love.
need to let go…and accept love is a two way street and I don’t
drive both cars.
I am possessive and jealous of anyone or anything that
I perceive as a threat to me.
need to let go…and realize I can’t have it my way when
it’s not my call.
I expect complete loyalty in my relationships.
need to let go…and realize my expectations are just that.
Separation is extremely painful for me, and often stormy
need to let go…and learn to live alone and fight the nasty demon
I am not inclined to turn the other cheek and retaliate
if at all possible.
need to let go…and learn to not carry on a lost fight or continue
a war that’s over.
I don’t forget an injury and harbor grievances
and resentments for a long, long time.
need to let go…I need to learn the value of not living in bitter
Forgiveness doesn’t come easily to me.
Domestic Abuse Intervention Project